Treatment protocol for dog separation anxiety.
By Laure-Anne Viselé, October 2010; Last updated July 2012
Separation anxiety: what to do
To hear me talk of separation anxiety on iTalk FM radio, click here.
In this article, I give you a detailed treatment programme. This is appropriate for dogs that have started to exhibit separation distress to a minor to moderate degree. If the problem is getting worse, or if it is already quite intense, please contact a behaviour therapist for guidance. I would be happy to give you advice if you live in The Hague or region.
Two more articles were written in this series, with a slightly different angle:
- The nerdy stuff behind separation anxiety: tells you about the theory behind the protocols, possible medications, the different types of separation distress, etc.
- Prevention and maintenance: tips to help proof your dog against developing this awful condition.
And then of course, Jolanta Benal’s quick and dirty tips to leaving your dog home alone.
The goal of this programme
With this programme, I am aiming for a dog that feels safe with absences of up to 4-5 hours. Note that routinely leaving your dog alone for long periods is never pleasant for the dog, so try to find alternative solutions where at all possible (dog sitters, family, neighbours, working from home more, etc.).
The prognosis for separation anxiety is reasonably good if you can stick to the program. And that’s a big if, as the first few weeks require you not to leave the dog alone – at – all.
If you need someone to design a program adapted to your life circumstances, I am happy to help if you live in the Hague or region.
Separation anxiety: a treatment protocol
The idea behind this protocol is:
- To gradually desensitize the dog to each step of your pre-departure routine: “routine rehearsal” through “safe sessions”;
- To frequently expose your dog to truncated cues of your departure (e.g. jigging keys) without it actually resulting in your departure: “fake departure cues”; and
- To gradually desensitize the dog to increasingly longer periods of absence whilst NEVER going far enough that the dog reacts: “duration build-up”
The beginnings
At the start of the treatment, you will have to avoid any absence that would cause the dog to react. If your dog is strongly separation averse, this may mean that you cannot leave the dog alone at all for the first few weeks.
It IS a lot to ask, but try to see it as a short-term investment for long-term peace of mind. You will never again need to worry about leaving the dog alone for a couple hours after this (if you keep up with the maintenance schedule, of course).
For the start of the programme, try to enrol the help of family members, neighbours, pet sitters, and try to work from home more. You could also try to delay the start of the treatment until you have long holidays, but don’t leave it too long as it’s the kind of condition that tends to worsen in time.
Equipment
The stuffed toy
Get a new “comfort and distraction toy” for the dog.
It has to be new, as you will use this toy for “safe sessions” exclusively (see below). This toy will become a predictor that this instance of your departure is safe, and won’t be upsetting.
The toy must be:
- Durable and resistant (won’t fall to pieces through long sessions of tough chewing), and
- Able to contain food that the dog has to pry out.
Think something like a Kong (check out this article to see how to stuff a Kong really tight for longer durability) or a Squirrel Dude.
Problem-solving games and books
Think of games your dog could play in your absence (search for ‘games’ in my book reviews if you’d like a book recommendation on the subject). It needs to be mentally stimulating, safe to play in your absence, and reasonably long (no point if it’s over in an instant). You could, for example, have a box of cardboard ready with scruffed up newspaper in it, and at the bottom, lots of treats for him to find.
There are also lots of excellent brain games on the market, and some of them may be suitable for unsupervised play.
A stimulating toy won’t replace treatment, nor compensate for long absences, but it’ll take the edge off as you’ve just left. In many intense cases, the toy won’t even make a dent (if the dog is simply too distressed). So it’s just one of the weapons in your arsenal.
Recording material
We’re going to want to measure the problem before starting the protocol, and then, we’re going to measure progress. If you have a smart phone of tablet, try to find a “sleep talk recorder”. These apps only record above a certain volume threshold which you can set yourself. This is ideal to establish the severity of cases involving barking/whining.
We also need a means of picking up on stress signals when we are not in the house, so that we can come back before the response escalates.
- You may want to attach a pet cam to your dog and record his movements so we can record agitation.
- You may want to attach a cheap security camera or webcam in the room, and stream that to your phone or laptop outside.
Safe sessions
Intro to safe sessions
Safe sessions is a concept I had to come up with when I noticed that my clients’ real life imperatives were realistically going to be in the way of the perfect protocol. Safe sessions isolate the protocol from real life stuff, and leave you the flexibility to ‘screw up’ once in a while, without compromising the whole program.
This is the general principle: whenever we are rehearsing the departure routine, we tell the dog he’s just in rehearsal (by always using the same words before starting the session – like: ‘safe session’, and by always wearing the same hat or other distinctive apparel). We make our rehearsals closer and closer to real-life situations, but we always end the session BEFORE the dog is distressed. As rehearsals increase in duration and realism, you can start using the safety cue for real-life departures.
Sessions should be:
- pleasant and entirely devoid of stress/punishment/anxiety
- frequent (about 5x a day, more if you can)
- far apart in time (about 1.5 hour apart at least)
- calm – no excitedly rewarding the dog or petting it during the session.
Note: We will NOT be opening/closing sessions for the fake departure cues (one individual step e.g. jiggling keys), just for the pre-departure routine rehearsal (a sequence of steps).
For more on safe sessions, read the article on the science behind separation anxiety.
Step 1 – Identify your routine and the sub-threshold first step
Grab a pen and paper and act as though you were leaving home. Now write down every single step of your pre-departure routine.
Then test the dog by performing the first step of your routine. If he is showing signs of stress (see nerdy article for the more subtle ones), split that first step into more minor steps until you’ve found one the dog is not responding to.
Now get on with your business for about 1.5 hour. Don’t start the next session just yet.
Step 2 – The departure routine rehearsal safe sessions
Say ‘open session’, and wear your ‘safe session hat’.
Give the dog his ‘distraction toy’
Perform the first step of your routine, and go as far as you can before the dog starts showing subtle stress signals (as subtle as increased vigilance).
Say ‘close session’ clearly and calmly.
Walk back to the dog (calmly, not cornering him, not towering above him, not darting towards him, not charging him) and take his distraction toy back (to teach the dog to giving back his toy gracefully, read this article).
Do not sacrifice the sanctuary that is a safe session for the sake of covering more grounds. You’re building solid foundations here, and you’ll be making up for lost time later.
Fake departure cues
Step 1: list all departure cues
You’re going to be working on this in parallel with the work you’ve been doing above and you’ll continue ‘dropping departure cues’ even beyond the programme, as a maintenance measure.
So, over the course of the next few days, try to identify all the really typical pre-departure cues you are giving your dog. Do not think of a sequence, here, just individual steps. Things like grabbing your keys or putting on your jacket.
Step 2: Drop fake departure cues all the time
Do all the things on your list several times a day without following them by an actual departure. That way, more often than not, the departure cues will NOT get followed by a departure. This, in combination with announcing your ‘real’ departures with a special word and hat, will help decrease the dog’s sense of alertness/distress/arousal during your departure routine. The previous cues lose their ‘predictive value’ (read the nerdy article if you like this kind of stuff), and therefore their power to distress.
When you do these things (e.g. putting your jacket on, jiggling your keys), keep it breezy. Don’t stare at the dog or praise the dog. Just do these things like it was the most normal thing in the world, then get on with your business.
Leaving the house and increasing duration
Getting over the threshold
If your rehearsal sessions have been going well, at some stage, you should have reached the point in the sequence when you reach for the door knob without the dog getting agitated.
The act of leaving the house itself is a big milestone, but you’ll need to reach it just the way you’ve reached all the steps in your departure sequence: by integrating it to your safe sessions.
It may be a tricky step to pass, so you will likely need to break it down into microsteps.
Increasing duration
Once the dog no longer responds to you crossing the threshold and closing the door behind you (use monitoring material here), start with absences of a minute or so, and gradually work your way up with safe sessions. Once you reach 5 minutes or so, start alternating the absence durations (with absences of respectively 2, 5, and 3 minutes respectively, for example) so that the dog does not learn to predict the exact duration of your absence.
If you notice the dog getting ready to be agitated (with your remote monitoring material), come back in and end the session way before it escalates. The last thing we want is for you to come back in IN RESPONSE TO AGITATION, or it’ll reinforce it.
Keep at least 1.5 hour between sessions, even if each session is very short at the beginning. It tells you why in the science article.
Don’t forget to open and close the sessions, and to give and take back the Kong when you do.
Slowly but surely, you’ll hit 5 minutes, then 20, then 1 hour, etc. The biggest hurdle is the first 30 minutes. If you have passed that without any sign of discomfort from your dog, the prognosis is excellent.
This is where the suggestions I gave you about stuffing that Kong and games your dog can play alone will come in handy.
Must leave the dog alone before he’s ready?
If you really can’t find someone to look after your dog and you HAVE to leave the house, then try to make it as different from your rehearsed sessions as possible. Give him a comfort toy again, but one that is completely different to his session one and do not, I repeat DO NOT say the word ‘safe session’.
What could go wrong now?
Once you have reached your target duration, don’t get smug and maintain the precious grounds you’ve gained. Check out the good prevention habits to keep up.
Another thing that could go wrong is that you have not desensitized the dog to particular events during your absence, such as the doorbell or loud traffic. If you feel you can, try working on that before you work on the separation anxiety.
If you’re not getting anywhere, or you don’t feel you can tackle this on your own, please contact your local behaviour therapist. I can help you if you are in The Hague or region.
Comments
- Are you coping with a dog with some form of separation anxiety?
- Are you a therapist dealing with sep-anx cases?
- Have you tried a successful approach to separation anxiety?
Whatever your comment or question, I highly value your input. Don’t be shy, and write a quick comment.
21 Comments
Thanks for this – some great constructive advice and suggestions here.
We have a young rescue dog who recently came to us. He’s a very anxious dog and is afraid of everyday objects, strangers and new situations. We are slowly trying to introduce him to new experiences and he’s coming along well. However, he hates the idea of being left home alone – crying, screaming and making desperate attempts to escape, as you describe above. This is totally understandable as he had a very traumatic start in life before being rescued by a family with 2 other dogs, 2 cats and a live-in maid. I don’t think he’s ever been left on his own before, until now.
His trigger is the car engine starting up, rather than the keys. We’re trying to desensitize him by starting up the car, and driving off, only to return a few seconds later. Our neighbours must think we are crazy!
I’m also going to try Bach Flower Remedies, which I’ev heard are good for nervous dogs. Has anyone got any experinece of using these?
Thanks a lot for your comment, Claudine. The sep-anx treatment really has a good prognostic, actually, and it sounds like you totally get the principles.
I have heard some tremendous things about the Rescue remedy, so definitely worth a shot.
Good luck!
Cara Canis Bonus,
Excellent tips to handle situations of separation anxiety, I will surely benefit from following some of these tips. I am in-between jobs staying home for the past month with my puppy, turning 6 months soon (German pointer). He got so used to having me around and following me around and having me take time off from my work to play with him that now he reacts biting the wooden door frames and walls, almost each time (not always) I go out. I have gotten really crossed at him as I always leave wonderful treats & toys and he has a lovely large garden to roam about freely. He also now developed a serious jealousy towards one of his toys. He used to play a lot with a rubber tiger and now, all of a sudden, the other day as I picked up the squeaky toy and cheerfully said “cute tiger”, my dog turned his face away, got very tense and slowly moved away from me tip-toeing into the garden where he stayed for hours on end (most of the night). He has the same reaction now if I try to bring this toy close to him. I can’t explain this reaction and find it amazing. Other than that, he is a good dog, quiet, friendly, playful and a quick learner.
Hi Anabela.
You are in a typical situation: at home a lot, followed (hopefully for you) by being away at work all days soon. I would definitely get him used to not following you around.
Unfortunately, large gardens don’t really do much for dogs without our company. They just sit in a corner and wait to be entertained even if they have a whole woodland domain available to them. Aaaaah dogs, frustrating creatures, aren’t they?
I know it’s difficult when they’ve destroyed our furnishing, but do try to not take it personally. They’re just not clever enough to work out macchiavelian plans to make us feel bad because we go out. The just vent their stress.
It’s really crippling as, in the end, you hesitate to go out for fear he’ll have another attack. And owning the dog becomes a major burden. So I know the protocol is strict and spans over a few weeks, but you’re in the ideal position to apply it now that you are between jobs, and it’ll greatly improve yours and the dog’s quality of life when he’s a little less extreme.
What you describe with the toy sounds really interesting too! Without seeing it, it’s difficult to pronounce myself, but it sounds like he’s scared of it. How odd!
Good luck with the programme!
This is a little long, but the pictures made me laugh and they made the content that much more enjoyable. I like how familiar you are with the protocol of separation anxiety. My only wish is that it could be explained in less than a book (it can’t, or you’d be leaving out key details.) (And by book I mean rather long blog post…. Mine are also long… I try to keep them short.)
I like your writing style – a little witty, very intelligent, and pretty enjoyable.
Good post.
I hear ya about the length. I really struggle with brevity! But indeed, all the harder on separation anxiety, where lots of details are really important for the treatment to have a remote chance of working.
Great article. Waiting for more.
Oh thanks, Tyler!
Very informative and trustworthy blog. Please keep updating with great posts like this one
Merci beaucoup!
I appreciate the insightful post. Thanks.
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Thanks, Lois.
It is really a great and helpful piece of info. I am glad that you shared this helpful information with us. Please keep us up to date like this. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks, Josef. I appreciate the kind words. Truth is, I always try to write an article on a question a customer recently asks me. That way, it allows them to read up more about it before our sessions. So it’s really 2 birds with one stones, but I love that it can be useful to other people too.
Hello, all is going well here and ofcourse every
one is sharing information, that’s in fact excellent, keep up writing.
I strayed on your site a little while ago and I seriously can’t get enough! Please keep writing!
Thanks for sharing this! I absolutely love the idea of dropping departure cues. I’m going to start doing this with my dog.
Thanks, Lisa. Let me know how you get on?
Hello everyone!
I have a 16 months poodle that has moderate seperation anxiety. We had consulted a behaviorist and had a treatment that went very well for almost 4 months and we see signs of anxiety again… We don’t know what could have been wrong, since we haven’t change anything. Of course it’s milder than the first time but still… We leave him with a stuffed kong or a toy or a bone or something for him to chew but when we come home he is upset. Should we use the same treatment that we used before? Could it be due to mating season since our dog is not neutralized yet? Any tip would be appreciated!
Thank you in advance!
Hi Marianthi
Are you based in The Hague? If not, let me know whereabouts in the world you are so I can dig out a local behaviourist. But do contact your original trainer, though. He/she might be the best place to go.
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